"Do Not …"
1. James begins, "Do not slander (speak against) one another" (4:11a). In general, what are some reasons why people speak against other people, even people in their own group?

2. Read James 4:11-12. According to these verses, why must we not speak against one another?

3. In verse 11, James connects "speaking against" with "judging." Read Matthew 7:1-5. What warning does Jesus give concerning "judging?"

4. Is it okay to speak against someone as long as we are sure it is the truth? Why or why not?

Personal Application
> Recall the last time you "spoke against" or "judged" another person. If you haven't already done so, confess your sin and ask God for the grace to change. Watch for times this week when you speak against others. Remember the above verses, and realize that only God gives the grace to change. If you haven't received Christ as Lord and Savior, that is the first step.

5. What should you do if someone speaks against another person in your presence?

Good Judgment?
6. Do you think that James 4:11-12 and Matthew 7:1-5 prohibit making any kind of judgments about other people? Explain. (Consider Matthew 7:5, 7:6, and 7:15-20.)

7. How is "constructive criticism" by the Christian different from "speaking against" or "judging?" What are some specific examples?

† "Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently." (Galatians 6:1)

† "Do not rebuke a mocker or he will hate you; rebuke a wise man and he will love you." (Proverbs 9:8)

 

Personal Reflection & Application:

>Recall the last time you attempted to offer "constructive criticism." Were your motivations purely constructive? If not, ask for God's grace to change your motivations. Ask God for wisdom and sensitivity.

>Recall a time when someone attempted to offer you constructive criticism. How did you feel? Why? Begin allowing God to use others (particularly His children) to rebuke and correct you, as much as it's consistent with God's word. Do not judge those who sincerely want to help you grow in your knowledge of God - the ultimate Judge.